I was in the emergency part of the hospital again this weekend.
Triage system is applied in seeking medical treatment, in disasters and in other situations when there are limited resources for overwhelming need/severity of the condition. Sorting them into three groups: those people that cannot survive even with care and treatment, those that will have 50/50 chance of survival, and those that can be saved/can benefit from treatment and care. In the waiting room, there is a huge sign that says, it is not a first-come, first-serve basis but people who are hard in breathing, bleeding, and in life-threatening situation will be administered first.
Taking this out of the context of emergency and humanitarian situations, triage will be hardly useful except when practically applied in priority-setting.
What should be the number one priority for the year, which will have tremendous life-empowering impact to you, to your family, to your economy, and your career/organization?
What actions/activities you should discontinue doing because it has lost its value, become burden than a joy, and lacks the challenge you require?
What support systems would be required to get you on the right track to accomplish the 'priority of the year'?
In the larger schemes of things, our actions should be aligned to the most important objective, not on the "non-urgent and non-priority, good-t0-have."
Imagine what you are losing or giving away unintentionally when you don't do this at the beginning of the year?
My three-year-old daughter claims that "she pressed the wrong button" and apologized for making a mistake or making a minor infraction. I don't know about you but I find this to be very apt.
We have a lot of buttons in front of us all the time. We try to press the right button but that doesn't mean that we do it with 100% accuracy. We do the balancing act: searching for understanding in light of uncertainty and complexity, looking for commonalities and broad-based agreements, pursuing the high road.
Understanding the right cues and contexts, and ensuring we practice empathy, active listening, and regard for others is always good at any situation. But sometimes, we misread people and situations, we overreact or become stone-walled, or sometimes react badly with the slightest provocation.
Making mistakes is part of our humanity in the context of many buttons. We have to stop incriminating ourselves, instead treat mistakes as a vehicle for learning and evolution. It is never fatal unless, it becomes an ego issue.
Defiance is better left to more substantive issues of the day.
How do you welcome a new year?
-Do you make those silly resolutions that fail after two weeks?
-Do you jot down key goals and share these to your loved-ones and accountability partners?
- Do you start with positive attitude knowing that this year can be better than the last or exceed your expectations/
-Do you start a new habit right after the eve and pronounce war with resistance?
-Do you become cynical about making changes in your life that what you want to do is to just get ' that one thing done at a time?'
These are not trick questions meant to make you feel inadequate but to provoke you to consider adopting the road less travelled. The road less travelled is not easier but it works because you are not fighting against yourself or against the odds that are bent on crushing you.
It is about harnessing your greatest strengths because those things can elevate your performance from 'good enough' to 'excellent.' If you are good in writing, focus on writing. If you are good in marketing, perfect that marketing proof or that material you want to develop. If you want to have a stab at innovation, start leading an innovation camp within your organization. Don't try to be something you are not destined to be! Go where there is the natural flow and let that take you places you don't imagine exist.
Try to look at areas in your life that are not developed enough but have the potential to fulfill your spirit, increase your joy, build efficacy, and maintain your discipline. These areas are evidences that you can be better at something without going overboard and breaking your bank and back. Furthermore, this exercise can give you the added nudge to move in parallel to where your priorities are for the year.
You can only start from what you have, not what you don't have. Consider moving in areas where there is the least resistance and get a big dollop of satisfaction from accomplishing them.