I met an acquaintance again after six years. While meeting her, it brought back memories to the time where I was thinking of doing a strategic pivot in my career. My mentor would say to make a ‘sharp right turn’ as part of evolving my professional contribution. It gave me a sense of fulfillment in what I found.
How far had I come from 6 years ago to this year?
What happened if you looked back at your past and asked yourself, how did I do it? It was a mix of serendipity, courage, and doing everyday work that led me to opened doors of opportunities in the last five years. These were very instructive for me. I have seen a lot of growth in those five years that I could not believe that I have accomplished, more or less completed!
We have some metrics in our minds as to what constitutes success, having arrived, being ‘there, on fulfillment, happiness, and never-ending joy. These metrics can be people we meet and hold to high esteem, situations where we deemed that’s “it,” the spotlight we crave, and the validation that we seek from others. These are all ephemeral after all.
The real metrics that matter are the metrics that we create for ourselves. It is not what others impose on us and those that we copy and use from other people’s lives. We alone can create the path to real and genuine joy and fulfillment that we seek out in our lives not what others in Facebook or the guru in TV proclaim to work.
Do not be a copycat of some persona. Famous on the outside, hollow on the inside. Do not be a slave to the life that you created. The life you created should produce the abundance, freedom, and meaning that can be discovered through reflection, focus, and perseverance. It is possible.
Live your life you dream everyday - one that is uniquely yours!
In the Filipino culture, we say "weather, weather" when we mean that there are highs and lows in life.
Sometimes, you are on top, and sometimes you are in the valley.
Sometimes, you are in-between and have to wait.
Sometimes, the wait is over and that your reality has caught up with your desired state.
Borrowing from Ecclesiastes, there is time for everything.
Enjoy every moment that comes your way.
The present is a gift.
Yesterday was behind us all and tomorrow is to be experienced.
A single parent mom aged 25 years old with two kids less than 5 years old each managed to finish her college education, get a degree, get a good job, pay the mortgage, raise her two kids, and now looking to get a Master’s degree after saving some monies.
A paraplegic has climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro helping fundraise a million dollars for building schools in Africa. He trained for one year and with the help of trainers get him into shape to accomplish his goal.
How can they do that? Do they have superpowers?
No, they are just regular people with an extraordinary sense of commitment to a certain task or a goal. Their bodies, environment, circumstances, and conditions were never perfect for those goals but they set out to perfect and harness their assets- strength of character, wholeness in their lives, and getting support they need from loved ones to get to the place where they want to be.
Capacity is not what you have in the present moment. Capacity extends and grows out of the abundance of your vision to change, to advance, to grow, to move forward. Capacity goes with you in the direction where you want to go.
When organizations say they do not have the capacity but are not able to invest either their time, staff, and resources to build capacity, they are simply saying that” it is not a priority.” Because capacity-building is never without a cost.
When people refuse to build personal capacity because they are lazy, ill-motivated, disillusioned, given-up on life and work, it means that they have given up on themselves.
Capacity is not about the size of your wallet or your mansion or the type of the car you drive.
Building capacity is building oneself. Building capacity is loving your self to work on how you can be a better person, a better manager, a better employee, a better husband/wife/son/daughter.
Capacity-building at the personal level is not the crash diet that is never effective.
Effective capacity-building is operating on the basis of why and coming up with accountability measures so that change is internalized into the core being of your person. The ‘who’ you are inside is dying to be fully freed from the shackles of mindless and thoughtless self-defeating thinking and action.
It is time to build your capacity muscle. How big is your capacity? It is as big as your vision.
My two-year daughter knows how to pull the right strings. When she wants to play with the dog, she would say, “Nemo” a hundred times until we give in to the demand. This incessant demand will drive us crazy and will not stop until she gets what she wants.
In life and in business, are you persistent (not overbearing and spammy) enough to endure the momentary hardships that accompany the task of getting your products out to the door, getting donors to support you, getting to the right audience for your content, or getting to the right customers that know and value what you are offering?
Are you persistent and ever-acknowledging that getting to the goal is incremental? It is not that one shot, one sale, one product. The basketball player has to get hundred (or thousands) of shots to perfect their shoot. The athlete has to prepare for the Olympics one to two years ahead of the game. The farmer has to persist with weather, prices, and regulations that made harvest a truly happy result. The juggler in the circus act has to perfect his stunt for two years before he can confidently perform on stage.
Have you asked enough to get what you want? A promotion, a raise, a referral, a testimonial, a developmental project, a speaking engagement? A product endorsement? A Board Trustee for your non-profit? A mentor? A sponsor? A friend of a friend of a friend that can get you to the right venture funder? Have you figured out in your head or have you really tried asking?
Ask more. Ask often. Ask until the door is opened for you. There is no reward for not asking. You get nothing.
My goal of winning this year is not just a matter of scoring few assignments. Don’t get me wrong. I would love to have those assignments to keep me busy for the last quarter of the year. A great kick-off for next year’s work actually. But yet, the consistency of my work has to be there, day in and day out, in bad and in good weather, in slow times and in fast times.
This consistency is what I would like to celebrate and further strengthen. This is not the goal itself but looking at what I have done since January, I am pretty set up for a more disciplined and targeted approach to acquiring the kind of business that I want for the next five years.
To the organizations, individuals, and companies that are putting in the right effort and the right strategy to use to achieve their goals, hang in there. Michael Angelo painted the Sistine Chapel. It took him a long time but each time, he was getting closer to his “ Obra Maestra.” Your work of art will not be an overnight success.
Nobody is an overnight success. Their discovery is an overnight success but their journey from zero to getting there is never done overnight. Show me one and I will prove to you in million times over that it was never what it appeared to be. Easy on the outside, difficult on the inside.
There is a lot of pruning that needs to happen on a daily basis. Discarding those that no longer suited you or have become irrelevant in your life is important. You do get sidelined sometimes but as long you keep your goals in the frame of your mind, it will stay as priorities.
Eliminating things that no longer fit your own frame of mind and future you have set for yourself is crucial. Those are beliefs, behaviors, and attitudes that are self-limiting. It tends to slow you down and its weight will make you paralyze from inaction. Some of these are good for when you were younger and have those conditions that are sort of set for you by your parents, school, etc. But you have evolved as part of maturity. A 42-year-old person will no longer afford to just ” go with the flow.”
The winning behavior, attitudes, and beliefs will increase your traction, create the change that is balanced and sustained, and set you for the long-term achievements to come.
What elements in your life can you discard, retain, and accept as part of your winning formula?