There's a saying, in matters of principles, stand like a rock, in matters of taste, stand like a bamboo (that's my way of putting it!).
The world will throw everything at you, even the toilet sink if you permit it. When it comes to your principles and values, stand firm and do not compromise.
Norms and trends may change overtime, creating polarized societies that come from very extreme positions. But values of compassion, kindness, generosity, civility, justice, and fairness -all these things make up for better people, better societies, better citizens.
Fairness and justice are words spoken easily but hard to advocate and reflect in your own life. It is not about the money. It is not about exacting revenge or causing aggravation. It is about claiming what is due, no more, no less. It is about saying, "there is no real peace or moving on, or forgiveness, or reconciliation, when there is no real justice."
And real justice is elusive in this day and age. But when we all aspire to become just, fair, and peaceful, there is always room for dialogue, for meeting of the minds, where win-win is possible.
Many people count their miseries more than their blessings. Wrong, count the blessings more than the miseries.
The miseries get bigger when you concentrate on their negative impacts. When problems are treated objectively, it means that you do not accept more negativity than what it is you are having.
Blessings and good things that come in your life are the sources of inspiration, power, confidence, and hope.
Hope - things that you aspire for but cannot see yet. Hoping for the best yields better outlook for you and for your family. A healthy dose of optimism and hopefulness is always welcome.
This year ending season take time to pause, reflect, and count your many blessings.
It will definitely bring you to the right mental position you need to tackle another year.
Is there any thing that you need to do less of, or stop doing completely?
Instead of putting more stuff on your plate, reflect on what you can get rid of it, literally in your closet or in your life.
A few examples:
1. Too much time watching TV, social media, or games watching
2. Researching and looking but never buying
3. Making excuses not to accomplish or complete an action, task, or project
4. Being overcritical but not committing to anything
5. Complaining on things that you cannot control
6. Taking on too much at one time
7. Not being able to say No! when it is more appropriate
8. Walk away from people or events that do no good to your life
9. Less time planning, more time doing things you love to do in the moment
10. Pleasing people to get their favor or sympathy
How about you? What are the elements in your life that needs to be trimmed or totally abandoned and forsaken? Find it out and have a clean slate for 2019.
Take care of yourself
1. Have enough sleep.
2. Take time to play within the day.
3. Eat healthy foods.
4. Keep a journal or notes for reflection.
5. Listen to soothing music.
6. Enjoy a quiet time with family.
7. Call a friend you didn't see for a long time.
8. Get moving by walking, running, or with a light exercise.
9. Clean your office desk or office room.
10. Pray for a loved one, friend, or a person you want touch.
11. Say a word of gratitude.
12. Enjoy lots of sunshine.
13. Take one step at a time.
14. Be kind to yourself.
15. Forgive and move on.
I met an acquaintance again after six years. While meeting her, it brought back memories to the time where I was thinking of doing a strategic pivot in my career. My mentor would say to make a ‘sharp right turn’ as part of evolving my professional contribution. It gave me a sense of fulfillment in what I found.
How far had I come from 6 years ago to this year?
What happened if you looked back at your past and asked yourself, how did I do it? It was a mix of serendipity, courage, and doing everyday work that led me to opened doors of opportunities in the last five years. These were very instructive for me. I have seen a lot of growth in those five years that I could not believe that I have accomplished, more or less completed!
We have some metrics in our minds as to what constitutes success, having arrived, being ‘there, on fulfillment, happiness, and never-ending joy. These metrics can be people we meet and hold to high esteem, situations where we deemed that’s “it,” the spotlight we crave, and the validation that we seek from others. These are all ephemeral after all.
The real metrics that matter are the metrics that we create for ourselves. It is not what others impose on us and those that we copy and use from other people’s lives. We alone can create the path to real and genuine joy and fulfillment that we seek out in our lives not what others in Facebook or the guru in TV proclaim to work.
Do not be a copycat of some persona. Famous on the outside, hollow on the inside. Do not be a slave to the life that you created. The life you created should produce the abundance, freedom, and meaning that can be discovered through reflection, focus, and perseverance. It is possible.
Live your life you dream everyday - one that is uniquely yours!
In the Filipino culture, we say "weather, weather" when we mean that there are highs and lows in life.
Sometimes, you are on top, and sometimes you are in the valley.
Sometimes, you are in-between and have to wait.
Sometimes, the wait is over and that your reality has caught up with your desired state.
Borrowing from Ecclesiastes, there is time for everything.
Enjoy every moment that comes your way.
The present is a gift.
Yesterday was behind us all and tomorrow is to be experienced.